“You don’t look like you have depression / bipolar / anxiety……..(fill gap as appropriate)
Ahhh if I’d had a penny every time I have heard such a statement.
The big question here is what ARE we supposed to look like?
What would make some one say ” ah yes I thought as much” unless they saw you in melt down mode?
This always makes me curious … What is it that people expect to see?
The truth ANYONE can suffer with a mental illness. The same as anyone cam get a flu, break their leg…..Mental health is no different and peaks and troughs just the same….just more so for some than others.
I made this video to try and make that point.
If someone saw me me on the street would they think I have bipolar? Used to have anorexia? I highly doubt it.
Mental illness is Invisible to most. Hidden. Secret at times and this is what makes it lethal at times. Never judge or make assumptions before you know facts. You can’t judge a book by its cover. You can’t judge a person by their face.
I have put this video together to help and inspire others that may be struggling with their mental health and to promote mental health awareness.
Everyone in this video has personal experience of mental health issues and have all come together to create a video to tell others that it’s okay not to be okay, it’s okay to have mental health issues and to talk about it and most of all, things can and will get better.
I have done projects within the local community and I wanted to do something that was accessible to more people and available online to offer hope and inspire others especially as it is nearly Christmas.
While it may be “The season to be jolly” , the fact is that a lot of people, myself included struggle around Christmas and New Year for a variety of reasons and so I wanted to put something out there from people of different backgrounds, from across the world sharing pieces of hope from their own experiences with mental illness.
There is a lot to be said from hearing words of encouragement from people that have been there and so I hope people get some comfort from this video and will share it to offer hope to others who may be struggling right now.
So in one day it was my birthday, I started the counselling course I’ve wanted to do for 10 years and I got engaged! The following day I was featured in stylist magazine as part of Lloyds Bank #GetTheInsideOut campaign and It got me thinking about how and when me and my partner got together at the worst point of my life, how I never thought I’d do anything useful and ultimately how my living nightmare has now become my driving force and passion.
This just reinforced to me how you really don’t know what’s around the corner, where life will take you and get even if you think you’re way off the course of life it may just be leading you somewhere!
Mental health issues become such a big part of someones life, it’s hard to see past them sometimes.
Mental illness doesn’t always have to be a bad thing I’ve found though – it gives you a bigger heart, ears that listen better and eyes that view things from different angles.
I’m through to the next stage of the UK Blog Awards 2019 which is very exciting!
The UK Blog Awards celebrates bloggers from a whole range of different categories and I am under the “Mental Health” and “Wellbeing” categories.
These awards mean the world to me due to their ethos and what understand for. Alot of their social posts are very much of my own beliefs and what I try to convey and so I’m chuffed to bits that I am in this next round.
40% of this next round is on public vote and so very much in your hand and I would be SO grateful if you could take seconds to vote for me HERE
To win this would be amazing, I often doubt myself and so this would not only be a major achievement for me but it would also have the potential to open up further possibilities and opportunities to use my voice and experience to help others which is what I ultimately want to do.
Some of you may or may not know that I start a counselling course next week (on my birthday!) Which I have wanted to do for at least 8 years!! My ultimate goal and dream is to one day have a little retreat where people can go when feeling suicidal with no where else to go for a respite.
All of the things I am doing here with this website, with the media things I’ve been involved with, these awards I feel it’s all to lead to something where I can use my voice on a larger scale and have a little house of hope! That’s the dream. That’s the goal and these awards are another little step in that direction for me so it really would mean the world to me if you could vote and share to as others to do the same. I really would appreciate it ♡
Just a little reminder to all you out there reading this right now that you are amazing.
You are YOU! DO you know how amazing that is?
There Is but one of you. One in this whole universe. Of all the humans out there right now there is just ONE of YOU!
That’s amazing. Add to that all the things that you personally do, That you personally have achieved, whatever they may be….That’s incredible.
Don’t underestimate YOU.
Don’t underestimate the power of you and all the things you have achieved and are yet still to achieve.
Don’t downplay those achievements. They are different for each of us and each one is amazing. You are here. Right now you are here. Being. Achieving. Growing. Learning. That’s something to be proud of wherever in life that may be. At whatever stage. It doesn’t matter.
There will be someone somewhere this Sunday evening struggling with their mental health.
Depression, anxiety, suicidal feelings – whatever it may be there will be so many people right now struggling.
I wanted to out out a short post. Just a little note from me to you. YOU sitting there right now struggling, feeling hopeless, worthless, like there is nothing left to do, no where left to go.
This is for you.
To tell you that I know it hurts feeling this way. I know it might feel like you’ve tried everything. Nothing is making this any better. That it can’t get any better. I know how much this hurts and the depths of these feelings because I have been there too, many times.
I also sit here now writing this to you knowing that if you give yourself time you will sit there as I sit here now feeling how glad I am that I am no longer in that place. Granted I know that it might sneak up on me again at any time, I not totally free from it’s grasp. The difference is now I have been through that and come through it time and time again I know that I am stronger and better equipped to deal with it next time, to almost watch it from a distance and let it run it’s course.
Nothing lasts forever, everything waxes and wanes and moves in and out like the tide.
This will too, even if it feels it wont.
Be kind to yourself in this time. Do what you need to do to get through. Be gentle with your mind as you would a broken leg. Don’t push it, let it heal and rest.
You will be Okay. These aren’t empty words. Believe me I know. I also know recovery is possible. That means different things to different people but to whatever extent that means for us – you – me, it’s possible.
Don’t be ashamed of your story it will inspire others.
Sharing mental health stories is powerful. There’s a lot to be said for one person’s journey resonating with other human and that is the reason I have wanted to share my story.
Today was a special day as I got the final manuscript back from my editor to pass on to the publisher ♡
It’s been emotional writing and reading and ‘re reading…and ‘re reading my own journey. It’s made me realise what I lost, what I miss but most importantly how far I’ve come.
Putting your story to the world for others to read is both empowering and terrifying.
It’s putting things out there there are personal, That you don’t speak of much, That others may not agree with and that may even tread on others toes.
For me if I was going to share my story. it had to be the truth. My version of events – regardless of who may or may not agree. I wanted it to be raw, honest, no heirs and graces. I didn’t want a fluffy story that sounded poetic but false. It’s about mental illness at its very core and so I wanted it to be real and I hope that it helps someone out there. That will make it worth while.
I have experience with more than one mental illness, a chaotic upbringing and multiple hospital admissions and so it was important to me to portray that messy and seemingly hopeless situation and show that it is possible to achieve normality…..whatever that is and whatever that means to the individual.
I will post updates when it is ready to buy and I hope some of you will read it and find some hope in there that you can relate to ♡♡
This is something i’ve wanted to do for so many years and somehow makes all that has happened mean something. It’s given me a passion and something to say that I’m now in a place to be able to share.
On a different note today has been the best. Not only have I sent off my manuscript to be a real live book but I’ve been and bought a new puppy to be named Eddie who will be part of our family in four weeks time! I LOVE dogs and already have my 10 year old fur baby who is my best friend and also featured in my book so this little man is a welcome and fitting addition ♡
So between puppies and publishing it’s been a fabulous day!