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As They Say – Never Judge A Book By It’s Cover.

Judgements, assumptions. We all make them.

It’s part of being human but maybe we need to stop and think before we make an assumption of someone before knowing them or the full facts.

I know I have had assumptions made about me. I have been told I look “Bitchy”, “Unapproachable”

I was even told recently that i had not been accepted on to a counselling course due to my “vulnerabilities” All they knew about me that could possible have registered as “vulnerable” in their minds was the fact that I have bipolar disorder. Regardless of telling them all the awareness work I do etc etc I was deemed “vulnerable” – That is an assumption based on not a lot of information (Irony was part of the interview was talking about how counsellors shouldn’t make assumptions)

We all do it, it’s part of being human but I think It’s important to try to not make snap judgements about people and situations until we have learned the full facts.

As they say – You can’t judge a book by its cover!

This vlog is me talking about this and why you really can’t judge someone before knowing them first.

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Mania And Psychosis – The Myths

So Mania is when someone is really happy and psychosis means you’re a psychopath right?

Wrong!

These two things hold so much stigma and misconceptions!

I could talk about this a lot more but pretty sure people would get bored of me rambling for half an hour so I have made a video as condensed as I could about my own experiences of these two things to debunk some myths and explain what ACTUALLY happens!

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World Suicide Prevention Day – Understanding Suicide.

World Suicide Prevention Day – Monday 10th September.

Suicide holds a lot of stigma. People don’t like talking about it. I talk here about the feelings that go behind suicide and my own personal experiences in the aim of suicide awareness.

A simple message can save a life.

I am proof of this. Talk. Reach Out. End The Stigma.

Please take 10 minutes to watch this, to understand why suicide isn’t “a cowards way out”, it’s not “attention seeking” and why something as simple as a message really can save someone’s life.

Never forget the importance of allowing someone to talk to you. For letting them know you are there.

Remember to send a message, a text, pop round, ask how they are feeling. Don’t be scared to ask. Suicide lives in silence. Most will be glad you asked, glad you care enough to have taken that time to ask about them.

It really can be the smallest of things that make a big difference. sometimes all it takes is a message.

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Self harm – complex and difficult to understand – this is my own experience.

Self Harm – It can be difficult to understand both as someone going through it and someone trying to help.

My experiences with self harm and advice from my personal perspective.

I recently gave an interview on the BBC Victoria Derbyshire show about the recent self harm statistics in teenage girls and wanted to expand a little on my own experiences.

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Dear mental health professionals, yours sincerely – mental health patients everywhere.

If I could only raise awareness and campaign on one area of mental health it would be NHS services.

So many are being failed and spoken to in way which should never happen and I feel it’s an area that goes largely unoticed.

This is my letter to mental health professionals, what we want you to know. From mental health patients everywhere.

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Self Harm And Stigma.

Katie houghton - self harm awareness - mental health
Self harm – BBC News – Katie Houghton

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-45345696

Self harm is misunderstood and often thought of as attention seeking behaviour. This couldn’t be further from the truth. People that self harm will mostly go to great lengths to hide it.

In a way, I was lucky that I learned to control it but this took many many many years and a distinct lack of help – including being told by a psychiatrist on an inpatient ward that it was “child’s play”, “didn’t I like that sort of attention?” ” you haven’t actually tried to kill yourself have you?” and I pretty much dealt with it alone.

It holds a lot of stigmas and people often don’t know how to react to it but the fact is the statistics are on the rise and young people are getting younger…

Once started it’s something that difficult to stop and very easily becomes an ingrained and “go to” coping mechanism.

My advice to anyone struggling is to speak to someone – whoever that may be – someone you trust, a helpline- anyone that will allow you to speak without judgment.
This is a very hard thing to do but it’s a brave and vital step to getting the help you need and the longer it lives in secrecy the harder things can become. It can be stopped. I didn’t think it could after years of not getting any real support for it, but you can come through it ♡

To any parents or carers I would say that just listening is so important, don’t judge, don’t assume they are trying to end their lives – while the self harming may be a way of expressing that this is how they feel the action of self harm itself doesn’t necessarily mean suicidal intent – it does mean there are overwhelming emotions and trying to get to the bottom of those is important and so talking, listening , and kindness are so important. Trying to get the person just to stop and focussing all the energy around that has the danger of pushing them away and making them less open and so supporting them emotionally and getting relevant help are vital.

Don’t judge people who self harm. Don’t assume their reasons for doing it. Listen. Be kind. It’s a very difficult time and words are important.

I hope that schools take note of the new statistics and mental health becomes spoken about it schools as part of a curriculum. Mental health issues are ever growing and children are getting younger.
I hope that children will be given the relevant knowledge and understanding to understand what is going on with themselves and also their peers!

Samaritans : 116 123

#selfharm #endthestigma #mentalhealth

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The OTHER TRUTH about having a baby – Mental Health

Prenantal postnatal depression - mental health and new baby
Prenatal and postnatal depression often lie in silence through fear of being judged.

Becoming a parent is the most magical time of someone’s life………

…..Or is it?

What about those with prenatal and post natal depression? What about those that have had a traumatic birth? Why are we programmed in to this state of mind that it should be a certain way and feel ultimate guilt if it’s not?

As parents we are almost brainwashed in to thinking we should enjoy every waking second of it. From pregnancy to even the labour….We’ve all heard SOMEONE say “I really enjoyed labour it was magical!” …. Magical was far from my own experience of labour. I would be more inclined to use the words “Traumatic” and “Horrific” for the way that mine panned out. I will also say that for the pregnancy and the six months following my Daughters birth due to prenatal and post natal depression.

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