What If I told you I could tell you the secret to happiness?
What If I told you I could give you something that could change your life in an instant?
One small thing and things would change forever, you’d be happy successful, rich…….
I present to you…………
That’s right folks, I gained my glasses and found eternal happiness……Right?
I could tell you that these glasses are magic glasses, they are different to all the other glasses out there, they changed my face, my smile, my happiness, my life…..
Photo one It’s midnight, I’m tired, i’ve taken my glasses off, I’ve had a shitty day / week / month, i’m stressed and getting ready to go to sleep. As is life sometimes.
Photo two its a reasonable time of the morning and i’m showered, dressed, make up on, fresh, going through a good period with no major stresses and I’ve put my glasses on.
The glasses made zero impact (apart from me being a little more blurry eyed without them)
My point to this blog is to talk a bit about the increasing amount of social media pages and accounts that are filled to the brim with perfect pictures, perfect people in perfect places, selling their perfect products or systems so that you can too, be perfect just like them……..To the cost of your soul.
It’s soul draining to see these perfect smiles on these people who have made a “six figure income in a month” and you can too!…… All you have to do is give them more money!
Or perfect bodies that have apparantly occured from drinking this one juice which you can have too if you sign up to their plan…..
I see so many accounts filled with perfect, pictures perfectly placed with colour co ordinating photos to catch the eye and make you wish that you were co ordinating just like them when in fact you’re sat at home in your pyjama bottoms wishing the washing up would do itself.
It’s. Not. Real.
There is so much pressure these days, this is especially tough for those of us that deal with mental health issues and don’t feel that we are enough a lot of the time, that wish we were different, that struggle with keeping up with life sometimes and it’s normal day to day pressures let alone these additional ones.
I often sit and wonder when I see these accounts what these people do when they have a bad day?
Because they do. Because they are human.
They can’t ruin their perfectly placed social media account and I always find myself wondering how these people cope when they have to deal with being not perfect, do they all have lots of people to turn to in the real world who know them as they are? I hope they do as It must be genuinely really tough and It seems such a huge pressure to put on oneself.
I understand people make a living and need to do just that, I understand that and admire those that have done this via social media and built something positive and have been able to drive an income from that. I have a real admiration for anyone that builds something from the ground themselves. However I have an issue with people selling “perfect” especially when it is to the vulnerable or those that are searching for happiness and more easily fooled. I believe that if someone has a genuine interest in helping others this is evident through other things that they do – actions speak louder than words. If someone has a genuine passion to do something to benefit others then even if they are to make a living from that very thing I believe there will be more to that than just generic messages, inboxes, photo’s and figures and how you too can have this money / body / happiness ……… (Fill blank as appropriate)
For example I am going to see a counsellor (Says the trainee counsellor ….. See – not all perfect!) due to some issues of late that I need to get on top of. Now thats her job and she needs to make a living. She has a passion for helping others as I hope all counsellors do. I asked her about concessions due to my current financial situation and she emailed me with an extremely reduced rate saying that her goal was that “counselling is accessible to everyone”
Now I’m not saying that a counsellor who doesn’t do this doesn’t care, of course not, it’s a job at the end of the day but my point is this shows true compassion and a want to make people’s lives better.
I recently pulled my book from my publisher and am self publishing it. This was for a variety of reasons but also as I wanted to have more control over the price as I felt it was too expensive and at the end of the day I wrote it to help others – not for the money. I wanted it to be accessible and affordable. I am not selling a story to make money from giving others hope, I wanted to share my story to show others it can get better regardless of what money I make from it.
These people that try and sell you happiness for your soul are selling perfection. Perfection is not achievable and i know from being a true diagnostic perfectionist that this is actually extremely damaging as you can never reach it.
I wanted to write this post to tell you that you are enough. Don’t get caught up in these pictures, social media accounts and perfect lives because the truth is most of them wont be what they seem. Nothing ever is. There is always more to a story. Especially a 2 dimensional one with varying squares of photos that are placed in a way to get as many followers and likes as possible.
We all do it, we all want out posts on social media to be looked at, shared and noticed. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t but just don’t feel you have to live up to these “perfect” worlds. Don’t feel you’re failing because you don’t have a body like the girl who lost x amount because she drank a juice (When really that took a lot of time and work because they probably also work out and go to the gym and it wasn’t just down to the varying bottle they are holding in their hand)
Be the best version of you, achieve that how you want to, go about it how you want and take as long as you need. Be kind to yourself. Show your strength by proving how you rise when you have fallen and do that for you. Not for anyone else. Do it to grow and build your own inner strength. Don’t feel you have to find that in others or by wearing “Magic Glasses”.
There is just one of you. Just one in this whole world and that is amazing. Perfect pictures that catch the eye don’t matter, Continuously feeling like you have to be living your “Best Life” doesn’t matter.
What matters is that you are living YOUR life. In YOUR way and being true to yourself.
That my beauties, is the true secret to happiness.