It’s hard to know what to say sometimes to someone struggling with mental health issues.
It can feel like you can’t do right for doing wrong and no matter what you say it doesn’t help. It’s hard. Really bloody hard and it’s easy to be left feeling helpless just trying to say anything to make the person suffering feel better. I get that, the words come from a good place but there are some things that really are better left unsaid.
1. “IT COULD BE WORSE”
You’re not wrong it could be. We could say this of every single person on the planets situations. It could ALWAYS be worse, you could always throw something else in to the mix of a bad situation and make it a total disaster. However, this doesn’t help. It makes someone suffering with mental illness feel inadequate….Most likely on top of what they already do, like they shouldn’t be moaning, like it’s no big deal. It IS a big deal. Mental illness is a total big deal and it can feel like it couldn’t get any worse. If someone is feeling suicidal and those words are spoken believe me, it’s a soul crusher and leaves you feeling like a waste of air.
Everyone experiences things differently, this does not mean that one persons problems are worse than someone else’s just because they are different.
The contradictory nature of hypomania can be a difficult one to live with!
It can be difficult not to question yourself, your motives and when you think it’s the “real you” and then it vanishes like a ship into the night it’s hard to deal with.
The last few days I’ve been as flat as a pancake.
The odd spark of activity will fill my mind but I will still be sat 10 minutes later thinking about how it’s a good idea….but that I really just can’t do it because I feel deflated.
Like one of those helium balloons that was full of life and headed to the ceiling only held down by a pretty, shiny weight but if that were to have broken it would have been off onwards and upwards towards the sky, any of the paths it may have taken being possible. But it’s been sat there a while and now it’s looking a bit sad, the air has left it and its hovering between the sky and the floor, undecided which it belongs to. Continue reading “Hypomania – it’s so awesome, it’s fucking awful.”→
Don’t let anyone tell you-you are defined by your mental health. Don’t let anyone tell you that you cannot do something, be someone, live your life. You can be whatever you wish to be, follow the dreams that you have always wanted. Life is tough darling, but so are you.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.