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Why You shouldn’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something!

It’s so easy to get caught up in anxiety and believing that we can’t do something, when actually we are capable.

This Vlog Is about why you CAN, and why you shouldn’t let anyone tell you that you can’t.

Sometimes we surprise ourselves! I have surprised myself recently and it’s always great when this happens as it challenges my often negative beliefs about myself, it gives me more power and determination to draw from.

As they say A journey starts with a single step……..

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Lord Mayor Award!

I am still in shock that I received this letter telling me that I am getting a Lord Mayor Award!

This last month or so has been a rollercoaster of some amazing things and some terribly stressful things.

In about a month I have almost completed a course I never thought I would have the ability to do, I have changed my surname by deedpoll for personal and emotional reasons, walked away from my remaining parent who I desperately wanted a relationship with but realised this was never going to happen, struggled to buy food due to job loss, had to talk to the council about social housing and possiblity of homeless registers, then had some amazing person pay my level 3 counselling course fees anonomously which blew me away then this dropped through the door!!

Talk about roller coaster!!!

Some terrible stress mixed with the most amazing things has left my emotions feeling a little all over! However I am so immenseley grateful for the good lately and these incredible moments that have picked me back up. I don’t know who paid my course fees but I don’t have enough words to thank them.

I can’t believe that the Lord Mayor believes that I deserve this amazing recognition but I am blown away and so so thankful and I hope I am able to use this to move forward and do even more in relation to my mental health projects because that’s what I do it for, to reach people and show it is possible for things to get better and to not give in to those thoughts of suicide, that one more step is a step in the right direction, even if it feels wrong because you are still here to fight!

I wrote my BOOK and shared my story to reach as many hands of people who feel they have reached their end of hope as possible to show that if I can do it, so can anyone out there.

I do the projects that I do to create conversation around mental health and also to show people that small things that we can all easily do – they do make a difference to people. To quote the Dalai Lama:

“If you think you are too small to make a difference – try sleeping with a mosquito”

We are all capable of change, we are all capable of creating change.

I am incredibly humbled and grateful for this award (even if recieving praise I actually find quite difficult) The letter absolutely lifted me when I was starting to feel quite down and doubt myself and I am incredibly thankful for that and eveyone who supports me here and online daily. It really does mean the world to me.

This just shows though it is possible to go from being gripped by mental illness, multiple hospital admissions and wanting to die and planning just that to holding on by a thread and going on to do things (even though I still struggle and cannot say it’s perfect by any means) that I never thought I should, could or would and have found a true passion and positive in the hell that once was.

So keep going my friend, don’t give up on you. Not ever.

Posted in mental health, mental health awareness, mental health campaigner

Can You Help Bring A Mental Health Awareness Event To Life?

One of my main mental health awareness goals for 2019 has been to hold an event.

I think so often it’s easy to focus on the negatives of mental illness that we forget about those out there that struggle, battle their own brains everyday but go on to help others.

I want to create an event that recognises those people, that recognises those one in a million professionals and that allows people to share their stories to offer hope to others.

I have been lucky enough to have been given a complimentary venue from the Bierkeller in Birmingham which is amazing seen as even Solihull and Birmingham Mental Health Foundation Trust woukd not offer their own venue/function room for this event, telling me that that had yearly financial targets to hit…. (Shocking I know, this is the mental health trust for the whole of solihull and Birmingham!)

There will be many more costs however and while my usual projects are funded from my own pocket with the occasional very kind donation, this project I will need some support with.

Unfortunately it doesn’t fit the criteria for any finding that I have looked at so I’m looking for your help!

This event will benefit not only those in Birmingham or those that attend but I hope as I have found through my other projects those further afield that read about it, hear about it to show that you CAN overcome, you CAN achieve and that there is hope.

I would really appreciate any help and 100% of all donations will go towards making this event happen!

Please see my fundraising page here

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How little projects can make an impact

I am super chuffed that in the last couple of days two of my pieces have been shared by the Huffington Post and The Mighty.

 

I think its so easy to assume as one human, just little old us we can’t possibly make a difference to this big wide world.

 

I am starting to challenge that within myself and think that maybe just maybe I can. We can. Not matter small it is, no matter what it is we choose to do to raise awareness, to be heard that it’s possible with a little hard work and determination and regarding mental health I have that in bucket loads oozing from my pores and I am DETERMINED to be a voice for those with mental illness.

My little tree of hope project was so simple. It cost me about £50 which I was more than happy to spend if it bought some hope to someone out there and that it did. It was also picked up on twitter with currently over 20k views and messages from others wanting to do the same, that means it not only impacted those walking past it in my local park but it also inspired people far and wide and it’s something that could be replicated so easily to offer hope and comfort and this gives ME hope.

The tree of hope was also picked up by the huffington post and you can see the article HERE

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One of my favourite blog pieces was also picked up by The Mighty, it was one of my favourites as it was regarding the thing that I feel the most passionate about regarding mental health and that is treatment.

It’s a letter to mental health professionals from me and what i’d like them to know, on behalf of all mental health patients. You can see that article HERE

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So please do carry on your own projects, your own awareness activities, they DO make a a difference, we CAN make a difference and as I always say. Don’t be ashamed of your story. it will inspire others. So keep writing, sharing and inspiring my beauties because our voices matter.

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The struggle of New Year and mental health – it’s Ok to not know where you’re going!

New year is a time of new starts, dreams and goals but what if you don’t know where you’re heading? That’s okay!

New year can seem like an expanse of time, especially if you feel lost.

My final video of 2018 I want to aim at those who feel lost, like the new year isn’t worth going in to….. I know how this feels and I want to share why it’s okay to not know where you’re headed.

Happy Christmas everyone ♡ please look after yourself ♡♡

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Tree Of Hope – Mental Health Awareness Project Made Worthwhile In One Single Moment

Some people may think do little mental health awareness projects really make a difference?

What difference can I make to anyone with just little old me?

As you will see from my previous posts, one of my personal mental healrh projects this Christmas was my tree of hope in the local park:

Today an elderly man approached me as I was replenishing the hearts which are attached for those struggling with their mental health to take away which all have the Samaritans number on the back.

He asked if he could have a heart as he lost his wife 12 months ago. I chatted to him for a while and he told me how he was “feeling fed up with himself” and wanted Christmas to be over.

We chatted and he told me he felt he should be moving on and be getting over it but he’s not.

He asked for a pink heart as it would remind him of her and I gave him a hug.

He squeezed me so tight and said “I haven’t had one of those for so long”

I literally wanted to adopt this man forever and I did shed a tear as he walked away after saying thank you with such sincerity clinging to the little pink heart. I am so glad I was able to make if only a small positive difference to his day and I will be thinking of him over Christmas.

This one moment made the whole project worthwhile.

I have made a vlog about this here:

Is this project only created that one moment then that’s what it was for. I always do these things thinking if it impacts one person then it’s worth it. Today I met that person. It reaffirmed why I do these projects and why they are important.

One person helping one person. That’s all it takes sometimes. One moment. One small gesture.

Today made me so happy that I met this man who happened to be walking past at that moment and stopped to talk.

You never know who you will meet, what they are dealing with and just a little moment can mean so much.

Never think as one person you can’t make an impact or make a difference because you could just make a difference to someones day. People helping people.

There’s so much to be said for it so please take a moment to reach out to someone this Christmas. You neber know what it may mean ♡

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What does someone with a mental illness look like?

“You don’t look like you have depression / bipolar / anxiety……..(fill gap as appropriate)

Ahhh if I’d had a penny every time I have heard such a statement.

The big question here is what ARE we supposed to look like?

What would make some one say ” ah yes I thought as much” unless they saw you in melt down mode?

This always makes me curious … What is it that people expect to see?

The truth ANYONE can suffer with a mental illness. The same as anyone cam get a flu, break their leg…..Mental health is no different and peaks and troughs just the same….just more so for some than others.

I made this video to try and make that point.

If someone saw me me on the street would they think I have bipolar? Used to have anorexia? I highly doubt it.

Mental illness is Invisible to most. Hidden. Secret at times and this is what makes it lethal at times. Never judge or make assumptions before you know facts. You can’t judge a book by its cover. You can’t judge a person by their face.