“You don’t look like you have depression / bipolar / anxiety……..(fill gap as appropriate)
Ahhh if I’d had a penny every time I have heard such a statement.
The big question here is what ARE we supposed to look like?
What would make some one say ” ah yes I thought as much” unless they saw you in melt down mode?
This always makes me curious … What is it that people expect to see?
The truth ANYONE can suffer with a mental illness. The same as anyone cam get a flu, break their leg…..Mental health is no different and peaks and troughs just the same….just more so for some than others.
I made this video to try and make that point.
If someone saw me me on the street would they think I have bipolar? Used to have anorexia? I highly doubt it.
Mental illness is Invisible to most. Hidden. Secret at times and this is what makes it lethal at times. Never judge or make assumptions before you know facts. You can’t judge a book by its cover. You can’t judge a person by their face.
There will be someone somewhere this Sunday evening struggling with their mental health.
Depression, anxiety, suicidal feelings – whatever it may be there will be so many people right now struggling.
I wanted to out out a short post. Just a little note from me to you. YOU sitting there right now struggling, feeling hopeless, worthless, like there is nothing left to do, no where left to go.
This is for you.
To tell you that I know it hurts feeling this way. I know it might feel like you’ve tried everything. Nothing is making this any better. That it can’t get any better. I know how much this hurts and the depths of these feelings because I have been there too, many times.
I also sit here now writing this to you knowing that if you give yourself time you will sit there as I sit here now feeling how glad I am that I am no longer in that place. Granted I know that it might sneak up on me again at any time, I not totally free from it’s grasp. The difference is now I have been through that and come through it time and time again I know that I am stronger and better equipped to deal with it next time, to almost watch it from a distance and let it run it’s course.
Nothing lasts forever, everything waxes and wanes and moves in and out like the tide.
This will too, even if it feels it wont.
Be kind to yourself in this time. Do what you need to do to get through. Be gentle with your mind as you would a broken leg. Don’t push it, let it heal and rest.
You will be Okay. These aren’t empty words. Believe me I know. I also know recovery is possible. That means different things to different people but to whatever extent that means for us – you – me, it’s possible.